Love Marriage Vs Arranged Marriage

We Indians are obsessed with marriage. When a child opens his/her eyes in this world, family and relatives start to plan his/her wedding. As in western countries there is just one kind of marriage, that is love marriage. We Indians have choice here also; we can do love marriage or arranged marriage. Listed below are some of the scenarios, which look entirely different in a Love marriage, compared to an Arranged marriage.

 

No # 1

Love Marriage:  You fell in love with a girl/guy, now arrange the family to accept her/him.

Arranged Marriage:  Your family arranged a girl/guy for you, now you accept it and love her/him.

No # 2

Love Marriage:  Girl can never threaten the guy with these lines “I will go to my mom’s place.”

Arranged Marriage:  Girl can win any argument by saying this “I will go to my mom’s place.”

No # 3

Love Marriage:  If the guy and girl fight, elders will say “We told you he/she is not good for you”.

Arranged Marriage:  If the Guy and girl fight, elders will say “Fights are normal in every marriage”.


No # 4

Love Marriage:  Guy can’t count on the heavy free money which he can get.

Arranged Marriage:  Guy’s family decide months before marriage that how they want to use the free money.


No # 5

Love Marriage:  “You have changed after marriage” this line will come in most of the arguments between the couple.

Arranged Marriage:  “You have changed after marriage” this line may not find place in the arguments as the couple did not knew each other before marriage.


No # 6

Love Marriage:  Family keeps no expectation from Daughter in law/Son in law.

Arranged Marriage:  Family expects the daughter in law/Son in law to be perfect.


No # 7

Love marriage:  People expect you to be in love forever, the couple is expected to be lost in each other all the time.

Arrange Marriage:  No such expectation from the couple.

Whether one had love marriage or arranged marriage, at the end of the day they are nothing but a husband and wife. They will love, fight, cajole, argue, guide and care for each other. Just by seeing the couple it is very difficult for an outside to tell that this couple had a love marriage or an arrange marriage. It is up to the couple, how they nurture their relationship and where they want to take it. They are soul mates, who will be there for each other forever.