Life is not a bed of roses, not even for the most blessed
people, they have their own set of challenges. And especially when you want to
improve yourself and your life with every passing day, it’s not a cakewalk. Everyday
bring us different experiences, it’s up to us if we want to learn from those or
let it go. Every person who crosses our life and every incident which takes
place is an opportunity to absorb and improve ourselves. And in my existence on
this planet, in the process of becoming better and happier I have learned few
things the hard way
1 1. You can’t make everyone happy
How much ever you like this to happen, it’s very difficult
to make everyone around you happy. Each one can have different requirements and
at times they can be contradictory to one another. You cannot make the points
meet in such case. So, stop taxing yourself for pleasing everyone. I used to be
a people-pleaser, will always put everyone before me, but I never got such
gesture back from them. I kept burning myself and slowly there was lot of
frustration buildup. Hence, I decided to stop pleasing everyone around me. I do things which are important, I try not to hurt anyone knowingly, but I
don’t go extra miles to satisfy all of them in all possible ways.
2 2. Your happiness is the key
Now that you are not busy pleasing other, concentrate on
yourself. An empty glass can’t fill another one, until you are happy you can’t spread
positivity. I have seen this personally, when I am happy I am more productive.
My positive feeling radiates to people around me. When I sulk, I can’t be my
best, and my happiness is my responsibility. So, work on your own happiness,
create it, don’t expect other to do it for you.
3 3. Be what you are
Never ever pretend to be what you are not. We pretend mostly
to mingle with few or please few others. But that is not healthy for you. You
can’t be what you are not for long and it will be disappointing for others also
to know that they never knew the real your, comes across as a negative trait. Mostly
people pretend to please others and as said earlier, you can’t please all and
be happy. Be yourself, you will be comfortable, and you will find people around
your who really value YOU. At the same time, be clear that pretending and
improving are two different things 😊
4 4. Physical and mental health are one
I learned this when I was going through a very low phase in my
life (sometimes we tend to miss on our blessing and start counting only issues).
Work stress was at its peak and I was still a new mother, I was trying hard to make
ends meet and that somewhere was taking toll on me. When I talked about
this to an expert, first thing she asked me was, do you drink enough water, do
you do any physical activity/exercise, do you sleep enough. And as soon as I
tried taking care of these things for a week, I saw significant improvement in
my mood and behavior. I was amazed to see this and from then I am a true believer
that mental and physical health are interrelated. So be whatever, do take time
out to take care of yourself. Keep yourself hydrated, try to sleep for 6 hours at
least, and do some exercise be it yoga/gym/ or just some walk. You will see the
changes in you yourself.
1 5. You have time
And after reading all the above points if your response is
that I don’t have time to do any of this, then my friend you are wrong. You have
time, you have good amount of time to do everything you want to do. All you need
to do is, prioritize what you want to do and why. Cut on your screen time or
time on internet and you will have time to exercise, read a book, meet a friend or
have a hobby. It’s all about prioritizing and willingness to do. Trust me when I
say this I am a mother of 4 after all 😊
